Wrong Reasons For Marriage

People sometimes get married for the strangest reasons. On of the worst is that they want to prove they can have at least one successful marriage, after being divorced. Another is that they think society will deem them a failure if they do not get married. Of course, this should not be the case, but people often perceive it to be true. The most important thing is that you and your future spouse sit down and discuss the reasons for your marriage and feel confident that you both share mutual intentions and motivations for marrying. In the meantime, here are some of the worst reasons (I know) to get married.

1) You think that marriage will make your relationship secure. You are sure that your husband will be faithful because he has promised in church to do so. Your partner will stop going out with his/her friends every night of the week and always be with you.

In reality, if this relationship was not secure before the wedding, it probably won't be afterwards. The best reason to marry is because you already have a really strong relationship, built on solid foundations. You understand and trust the other person.

2)You want to get married because you do not want to be alone, or to feel lonely.

Clearly, you should be happy when you are on your own and with the other person. You need to be secure in your own worth and in the knowledge that your partner appreciates you. If you are trapped in an unhappy marriage, there are few ways of escaping the situation. This is more lonely than living alone.

3) You want children and need to get married to do this.

It is true that children will benefit from living with two parents. However, the reasons to marry should be apart from the children. This alone will not make a marriage happy. Your relationship needs to have strong foundations to begin with. If this is the case, the children will bloom within your relationship and possibly benefit from having the same name.

4) You want to get married so that you will have your own wedding day.

This one day takes months of planning and will only last for a few hours. The rest of your life will last a lot longer!

In conclusion, the best reasons to marry are that you love and adore your partner and have a understanding and caring relationship. If you marry because you have an agenda or specific reasons to make your relationship better, the marriage will not work, and will make you feel very unhappy. If this is the case, it is possibly better to not get married.
Source: Sally Tallant